If your child is one of the latter type, you will need to find a compromise between ignoring the problem completely and treating it as all-important. Spelling is useful in helping us communicate in writing, and unfortunately incorrect spelling can make a writer seem ignorant, not to be taken seriously. However nobody should feel bad about inability to spell; it’s no more their fault than being unable to sing in tune.
Phonic rules may be useful for spelling
For a young child who is interested in writing and would like to spell better, you could teach phonic rules one at a time, without pressure, and help him to spell words correctly. When you come across the many exceptions, let him know you agree with him – it is annoying that English is such an unpredictable language as far as spelling goes. It’s partly to do with the many roots of our language (some Latin, some Greek, some Anglo-Saxon, and more…). If your child is interested in ancient civilisations, a study of etymology may come in useful, but equally it may confuse him even more.
If your child wants a weekly spelling test like schoolchildren have, then choose words which he often misspells and help him to practise writing them in sentences. Don’t do this if he finds it stressful, or if he becomes anxious about spelling: anxiety is not conducive to learning. However if he enjoys this (and some children do) it may be a useful exercise.
Don’t worry if he keeps making mistakes. Show him how to use the spelling-checker on the computer and he may find that his spelling improves as he gets used to correct spellings of words on the screen. For a useful resource, with various printable worksheets and extensive spelling and grammar rules, see the literacy pages at the Skills workshop. There are other relevant sites on my English resources page.
Grammar is important in communication
Grammar is also important; again it’s an aid to communication. If you are careful to speak grammatically, and if your child reads widely, he will probably pick up good grammar naturally. Teach him about the different parts of speech and think about the way words are formed, if he is interested: this will be of some value if he begins to learn another language, where such rules may be more formal, but if he’s not interested there’s really no need to know about verbs and nouns and so on. It’s also important to understand the basic rules of punctuation in written English, and how to avoid the pitfalls.
If you want to teach grammar, punctuation and general English rules more formally, a thorough text is Hadyn Richards Junior English; a child of about seven or eight is probably ready for the first book, although of course it depends on the individual child. You can work through these books verbally, or with the child writing if he wants to.
If you want to make sure your child is roughly keeping up with his age group in school, there are several assessment testing books available, which are frequently updated so as to reflect latest National Curriculum guidelines. You should be able to find the latest ones in any local or online bookshop. Keep such tests infrequent and informal, and use them to see where there may be weaknesses that you can work on together.
Don’t forget that home educated children are not required to take SATS tests; nor do they need to follow the National Curriculum in any subject. Nevertheless, being able to write grammatically and with reasonable spelling is a useful skill, which is easier to learn gradually at a young age than as an adult when it may be necessary for job applications.
Writing in the teenage years
Once your child is about ten or eleven, and confident in all areas of English, he may want to write articles for magazines or poetry or even full-length novels. You don’t need to be limited by classroom times or anything other than your child’s imagination.
However if you want to use some text books, there are some excellent general English course text-books used in secondary schools. Some of them focus on fairly structured writing with grammar and spelling rules, some have inspiring creative writing ideas, some look at poetry in all forms – from classic sonnets through to haikus and limericks – and some introduce children to a wide variety of literature. You have no need for any of these, but some children like structured courses; using a book like this might open up some new avenues that you would not otherwise have explored. Publications vary from year to year, so it’s best to check your local bookshops with your children, and see which (if any) text-books appeal.
As with younger children, you will find a wide variety of Internet resources devoted to literature and books which teenagers might enjoy. Try searching for your favourite authors or book characters: most will have sites devoted to them. An interesting site where other home educated teenagers recommend and review books is at Homeschool gazette – book sharing
If you want to read some myths and legends, perhaps to tie in with a history topic about ancient civilisations, a comprehensive selection can be found at Bullfinch’s mythology.
For good reviews of books for teenagers, particularly those recently published, a site which is frequently updated with new reviews is The Bookbag.
An older child who writes well may want to consider submitting work to magazines or book publishers. Excellent advice for writers is given at Jacqui Bennett’s writers’ web site.
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